Bullying is a topic that is being discussed regularly by parents and teachers across the nation. Bullying is one of the biggest reasons that homeschooling is becoming a more used and accepted option. Now, we are not saying that there is anything wrong with homeschooling. It can be a great option for many families. We are saying, on the other hand though, that there is a very big bullying problem in this nation and in our school systems that needs to be addressed. Anti-bullying programs should be a part of every school. One of the best things that schools and parents can do is promote nonviolent communication.
Nonviolent communication is a form of communication that discourages any kind of abusive reaction. This means that it does not support or justify bullying, teasing, pushing, hitting, name calling, or even mean, spirited sarcastic remarks. All of these are just different names for bullying and different ways that we can hurt another human being.
Instead, nonviolent communication focuses on understanding the proper way to respond to a trigger or conflict. This can be done by trying to understand why we feel a certain way and the proper term for how we are feeling. For example, when we want to lash out at people for no good reason, nonviolent communication would encourage self reflection. Maybe we are not actually made at everyone around us today. Maybe instead, we did not get enough sleep last night and did not have a good breakfast this morning. By taking a moment to label a feeling and finding a cause, a solution can be found and a person can be aware so they can control their actions.
The first step in nonviolent communication is often a focus on empathy. A person who can take a moment to step out of their own shoes and slip into someone else’s is a person who can see the affect that their actions have on another. People who are emphatic are much less likely to bully others and are more likely to stand up for a child that is being bullied.
Nonviolent communication not only results in children who are less likely to be bullies, it also results in children who are more likely to talk to a bully directly to find out what the problem is and how to solve it. Since nonviolent communication can prevent bullying and help children find solutions to their own bullying problems, that is why nonviolent communication is key to stop bullying.
Learning more about anti-bullying programs and nonviolent communication is the best thing we can do for our children and our schools. Nonviolent Communication for the Next Generation is a great resource for schools, parents, grandparents, teachers, and anyone else who has any interaction with children. Learning empathy and showing it for our children and those around is a great first step that we can make today to help the next generation and future generations have a better future. There is hope for a better tomorrow and it starts today.